Miscarriage: How to Show Up For a Friend

Miscarriage: How to Show Up For a Friend

Miscarriage is a heartbreaking experience that affects countless individuals and couples around the world. It is a topic that is often unspoken, leaving those who have experienced it feeling isolated and alone. Miscarriage can be accompanied by a range of emotions such as grief, sadness, guilt, and even anger. Miscarriage affects individuals both emotionally and physically. Emotionally, it can bring a sense of loss as expectations and dreams for the future are shattered. It can also lead to feelings of inadequacy, self-blame, and a questioning of one's ability to conceive or carry a child. On a physical level, there may be physical pain, bleeding, and hormonal fluctuations that can further contribute to the emotional distress. 

The impact of miscarriage can be long-lasting, as it not only affects the person who experienced the loss but also their partner, family, and close friends. It is a deeply personal and individual journey of healing, and it is crucial to offer empathy, support, and patience to those going through this challenging time. 

If you find yourself in a situation where someone you know is going through a miscarriage, it is essential to provide them with empathy, support, and understanding during this challenging time. By ensuring that you are there to listen attentively and offer a safe space for them to express their emotions, you are acknowledging their pain and validating their feelings without trying to minimize or fix their grief. The cards from the Show Up Shop are a perfect avenue for expressing empathy towards those in your life going through the aftereffects of a miscarriage. 

Our cards say it all, but if you’re curious about what to write on the inside, try one of these: 

  • I am deeply sorry for your loss and the pain you’re experiencing. 
  • Please know I am here for you, ready to provide support and a listening ear whenever and however you need.
  • Your feelings are valid, and it’s okay to grieve in your own way at your own pace.
  • I can’t fully understand what you’re going through, but I want you to know that I care about you deeply.
  • Take the time you need to heal physically and emotionally. Your well-being is of utmost importance. 
  • I can’t fully understand what you’re going through, but I want you to know that I care about you deeply. 
  • I am here to help with any household chores, errands, or any other tasks that are overwhelming you right now.
  • If there’s anything specific you need or if you’d like to talk about your feelings, please don’t hesitate to let me know. I’m here for you.
  • Sending you love, strength, and comfort during this difficult time. You are in my thoughts.
  • Remember that healing takes time, and I’ll continue to be here for you as long as you need me.

Regardless of what is written inside, sending a card to someone experiencing a miscarriage is a compassionate and thoughtful gesture. It acknowledges their pain and loss, showing them that they are not alone in their grief. The simple act of sending a card lets them know that you care, providing comfort and support during a difficult and often isolating time. It can serve as a tangible reminder that they are in your thoughts and that you are there for them, offering a source of solace and understanding.


If you or someone you know is in need of counseling and support, please reach out to Ready Nest Counseling to schedule a session or be matched with a beneficial support group. 

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